The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit. [Prov 18:21]
He who guards his mouth and tongue keeps himself from calamity. [Prov 21:23]
There are quite a few bible verses that speak to watching what we say and speaking things into the atmosphere. I was talking to someone yesterday and she was saying how she noticed that whenever she spoke negativity concerning her life…they happened and the few times she spoke positively…they happened. So she has made it a point to distance herself of negative people and was admonishing me to do the same.
I do believe in the power of words [you know that kain belief you know in theory but not really practically?...yea]. Like I know the scripture and I believe in the power of “calling those things that be not as though they were.” In my head that is. Actually thinking and speaking positively is quite another story. There are times I catch myself and stop staying negative things but I only do that maybe 20% of the time [there are just some things I don’t allow myself say regardless of what actually is]. The other times I’m just being realistic or so I tell myself. I said before that I consider myself to be a realist…ya’know the one that hears it’s going to rain, hopes it doesn’t rain but leaves home with an umbrella just in case it does rain and carries on with the day. As opposed to a pessimist that would stay home cos she knows for sure it would rain and would rather not be caught in it. Or an optimist, who ‘claim’ no rain and leaves home with an umbrella cos she just knows it’s not going to rain…or something like that sha lol
My question is where does the line between positive thinking and being realistic blur? I understand that the label ‘realist’ maybe a guise…some type of defense mechanism against disappointment but is that so wrong?
There are some people that have a natural disposition to be positive and I guess good things happen to them. Are there people that always think positively but positive things don’t happen to them? Is that a moot point since they put a positive spin on everything so even when positive don’t happen they find a way to make it positive? [okay even I don’t know if that makes sense].
Is it because some people think negatively that negative things happen to them or is it as a result of past experiences that they think negatively…which results in continuous negativity?
I guess it all depends on one’s faith level…? We all have a measure of faith but I’d imagine that people that have a natural disposition to be positive have an easier time exercising faith…no?
Ah well…I think I’m rambling so I’ll just stop. I’ve managed to confuse myself so on to mindless stuff.
Meanwhilly: I just heard THE ex is getting married. My heart skipped a beat when I heard and I waited for the effect of the news cos I couldn’t tell at that moment how I felt about it. Tigeress had written a post [here] on the same topic…it came to mind and I just laughed cos my comment on her post is apt especially, the “water off a ducks back” bit. I tried to analyze how/if I felt anything but realized that doing that wouldn’t do me any good knowing how my mind works I go just begin dey think up ish. Overall, [without the over analysis] I’m glad he’s found his rib and wish him all the best…he is a good guy [No. Really, I am.]
Hope you all had a great weekend. Here’s to an even greater week
*Muah*
Showing posts with label Positive thinking. Show all posts
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Thursday, February 26, 2009
Positive Affirmations
Yes, I am a Christian and I believe in the bible and all of that good stuff but am I the only that feels silly chanting all the so called positive affirmations that some of these self-help books preach about? The whole “Speak positive things into the universe and the universe will bring you something good.”
I consider myself a ‘realist’ but some might say I’m an undercover pessimist [that word and Christian shouldn’t go together huh? lol]. Anyways, I call things around me as I see them especially as it concerns me [like there are few things you can 'yab' me about that i haven't already yabbed myself about]. I might be inclined to sugar-coat things for other people but not to myself. I know there is good in the world, I have been lucky enough to be a partaker in a lot of that good. I also know that there are good people in the world cos I have been lucky enough to be surrounded by a lot of good people, however...
The reason I say I’m a realist is that I usually always state the good and the bad of most situations…like I understand that things could go either way it’s just that I am often inclined to lean towards the negative side of things at the end of the day. I say it’s defense mechanism…if you expect the worst, you're not disappointed when it happens or you're pleasantly surprised if better happens. Its safe to expect bad…not much energy is needed for reinforcement.
This kind of thinking is crippling. I know that all too well. You never trust fully cos hey, they are human and can easily disappoint [this one is kinda weird cos we still get disappointed]. You are never really fully confident in yourself cos of all the ‘not-so-great’ expectations you have about life/yourself/people/your surroundings. You don’t try as hard as you could cos really what’s the point? OR you don't try as hard so that if you do fail you can chuck it up to ‘ah well, I didn’t try too hard anyways.’ You have a hard time accepting compliments cos you don't believe them or are too scared to believe them incase they are not true Etc etc
I’m sometimes envious of those who ALWAYS see the positive side of things and who always think positive [sometimes they are highly annoying like stfu pls!!]. I do believe in the power of words. As in, my head knows that the words I say are powerful and the more I speak it, the more I believe it, the more likely it is to happen. But does that stop my mouth from saying the crap? No!! Ah well, I’m a WIP.
*Muah*
I consider myself a ‘realist’ but some might say I’m an undercover pessimist [that word and Christian shouldn’t go together huh? lol]. Anyways, I call things around me as I see them especially as it concerns me [like there are few things you can 'yab' me about that i haven't already yabbed myself about]. I might be inclined to sugar-coat things for other people but not to myself. I know there is good in the world, I have been lucky enough to be a partaker in a lot of that good. I also know that there are good people in the world cos I have been lucky enough to be surrounded by a lot of good people, however...
The reason I say I’m a realist is that I usually always state the good and the bad of most situations…like I understand that things could go either way it’s just that I am often inclined to lean towards the negative side of things at the end of the day. I say it’s defense mechanism…if you expect the worst, you're not disappointed when it happens or you're pleasantly surprised if better happens. Its safe to expect bad…not much energy is needed for reinforcement.
This kind of thinking is crippling. I know that all too well. You never trust fully cos hey, they are human and can easily disappoint [this one is kinda weird cos we still get disappointed]. You are never really fully confident in yourself cos of all the ‘not-so-great’ expectations you have about life/yourself/people/your surroundings. You don’t try as hard as you could cos really what’s the point? OR you don't try as hard so that if you do fail you can chuck it up to ‘ah well, I didn’t try too hard anyways.’ You have a hard time accepting compliments cos you don't believe them or are too scared to believe them incase they are not true Etc etc
I’m sometimes envious of those who ALWAYS see the positive side of things and who always think positive [sometimes they are highly annoying like stfu pls!!]. I do believe in the power of words. As in, my head knows that the words I say are powerful and the more I speak it, the more I believe it, the more likely it is to happen. But does that stop my mouth from saying the crap? No!! Ah well, I’m a WIP.
*Muah*
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